Farida Dancer: So first question is when did you know you wanted “dance” to be a part of your full time career?
Tanya Beardsley: Ummm…when did I know? I think that kind of happened on accident. I just know that dancing, for me, was always like the first form of communication for me. I’ve danced my whole life….I tried different things u know…but um words just kind a messed it up. Like I feel I’m super emotional and super passionate and dance kind of um allowed me to have an outlet…to let it out…instead of bottle it up. I just kind a randomly like I heard about it but I was a competitive dancer u know and I was doing that professionally…yeah I was teaching dance and that was a whole different world. People told me about Zumba, and I googled it, and went to one of the first trainings u know and uh……….. 10 years later u know, it just like…it’s just important to….u know…expression man….empower people it’s important.
Farida Dancer: Yeah you totally have that ability naturally. Yeah and I just wanna know when did you realize a natural ability to motivate people because not everybody can do that? J
Tanya Beardsley: No I didn’t and I think it just kind a happened through honesty…believe it or not. Most of us, like I was saying this morning …joking that I was having issues n’ stuff but we’re taught even in dance to keep it all in…don’t let it shake u ….u have to be a certain way…not to be verbal about your feelings. Yeah honesty man…because I think everybody holds it in…I think they’re not honest about how they feel and their insecurities n’ stuff like that…and I decided u know what…I’m never going to be able to connect with people if I have a constant front up…whether you like it or not…as long as I’m myself and I’m honest then I’m gonna be able to sleep at night. Like it’s too much of a fasod that people try to put out or try to be something that they’re not and I think through going through everything that I deal with just as a human being and being open about it…have been able to connect with people…and maybe inspire them to open up about their stuff too.
Farida Dancer: Did you ever have issues with public speaking before or ….
Tanya Beardsley: Yeah it always scared me.
Farida Dancer: Really????
Tanya Beardsley: Yeah Always…like reports in school n’ stuff…
Farida Dancer: Yeah??
Tanya Beardsley: Yeah are you serious? I got sick n’ everything…..
Farida Dancer: What got you over that like what did you do to break that?
Tanya Beardsley: Being Honest.
Farida Dancer: Yeah
Tanya Beardsley: And having my certain material like you know …having that material that we teach with but fully believing in that material and being able to express it in different ways is what got me over it but um I’m always nervous before everything I do. And that’s why with teaching you can warm up to people like through the movement and then it’s easier to speak to them once you’ve already connected in that element. And yeah but none of this happened until I started to learn to try to accept myself man and not try to change it…yeah a life long process but. And plus I feed off of people like you who tell me that you actually feel it and you know that’s important.
Farida Dancer: YeahJ
Tanya Beardsley: Yeah (Tearing up a bit) Now you got me going’ dude…
Farida Dancer: Cool! Noooooo!
Tanya Beardsley: Smiling and laughing
Farida Dancer: You use the strong phrase “Keep your ego at the door” – What works for you to make sure that you yourself follow that?
Tanya Beardsley: Because I know nothing lasts forever and we may be in this position now to be trainers, to be in videos and to be able to do what we can do. And that’s what it is, and it is that we are able to do what we can now and we should try to live in the now. When we get caught up in ‘ego’, it deludes everything man and it makes you insensitive to what’s really going on because you’re always putting up that front. But like I was saying today there is always going to be people better than you and if you have such a huge ego it hurts worse when someone walks into the room and they totally kick your butt. But everyone has their niche man and everyone is beautiful and amazing in their own different way. They may not be a great dancer but maybe they are an amazing artist in another way like a great mom or dad u know. When ego sets in that is when things start to crumble. Unfortunately a lot of the chaos in the world today stems from ego.
Farida Dancer: So you recognize those consequences and that’s what keeps you…
Tanya Beardsley : Yeah J And also I hate egos cause I came from …like first I was in Miami and I was trying to fit in there doing my Zumba thing and I’m not that Miami type. I’m not this beautiful Latin Goddess….like I just think that Latin women are beautiful and I tried to be that….
Farida Dancer: Really? You tried to be that??
Tanya Beardsley: yeah I tried to fit that mould for a long time…and that why that process got difficult for me…and that’s why evolving…coz I feel like…..
Farida Dancer: Was that why you were dressing kind of more like feminine, like you know and now you go with a hip hop look now?
Tanya Beardsley: Yeah I’m a lot more comfortable in baggy clothes
Farida Dancer: Yeah! J You totally work the baggy clothes J
Tanya Beardsley: You know I feel I don’t have to take my clothes off to be sexy. I don’t think women should feel like they have to do that….and we don’t have to do that because beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You know like I said…we are evolving….we are what we choose to be confident…we have to be mindful about that…u know. And ego and all that u know I just didn’t ….it’s energy! Everything is energy! You know when you’re in the room with the most arrogant people it’s just not a good feeling! They say perfection is an illusion dude.
Farida Dancer: Yeah…that’s true…Buzz kill….
Tanya Beardsley: Yeah you shouldn’t have to look a certain way, if you have to go through the whole prep…the hair…the makeup….you know everything….to walk about and feel good about yourself. It starts from within. I think in that confidence…that’s what projects. Coz you know you can meet physically beautiful people but they’re just ugly…like their personality and their energy is ugly. And then again you can see average people and they have a beautiful soul and light that u know makes something extra special. Did I even answer your question???
Farida Dancer: Yeahhh! It did!! Totally wow!
Tanya Beardsley: I’m just going off on you over here dude! (Laughing)
Farida Dancer: J That’s awesome!
Farida Dancer: If you had three wishes for your life in particular, what would they be?
Tanya Beardsley: Oh Boy…….
Farida Dancer: Let’s start with the first J
Tanya Beardsley: Oh Jeez….. Feel like the tears are gonna come………Three wishes?
I think the first one would be for my family to be healthy, happy and balanced. Um ……………and safe. And another would be happy, healthy, balanced and safe for myself and okay with myself even when all this stops. These are kind a not wishes for material things but u know that comes and goes. You’re born alone and you die alone and you don’t have all your material stuff with you. Yeah it would be for my family and loved ones to be okay. And I think another one not to be selfish but I’d want me to be okay man, and quiet the voices n’ stuff. And we talked about evolving and being okay when I move into the different phases of my life with no regrets. That’s a big thing…I don’t want to have any regrets. And I know it’s important to me is to tell people like my mom and dad …I tell them I love them everyday…it doesn’t matter where I am in the world, I have to text them or call them to tell them I love them because you never know what tomorrow…u never know…u know what I’m saying…that scares me. It’s important to be verbal about that kind of stuff. And another wish I guess is just……world peace!? (laughing)…I’ve always wanted to say that (laughing) Man I’m gonna think about this later and I’ll be like damn! U know…gimme your email just in case and I’ll be like here are my three wishes J (thinking….)
Farida Dancer: For you…something for you
Tanya Beardsley: We got to learn to give more to ourselves especially as women again…always trying to give to everybody else and we never make ourselves happy. My third wish is that I would love to find the absolute love of my life. For someone to love me in my sweatpants and zit cream, to be a wonderful mother and to have a family from that stem…from that seed of love…that book love…that fairytale stuff….I believe in that. I’m a hopeful romantic. But damn I want that so bad…so bad. So I think that would be number three. The never dying true love soul mate….If that’s out there I want it.
Farida Dancer: Wow, that’s beautiful.
Farida Dancer: What do you enjoy while not working?
Tanya Beardsley: Spending time with my family…when I get a chance to. I like to see live shows. I like to go to concerts. Like Sade…she’s like my favourite artist…amazing. I like good conversation…I like to learn stuff from people…whatever like still appreciate stuff…like
Farida Dancer: So you’re not really into the party or the club scene?
Tanya Beardsley: No I used to be. I definitely feel like dancing…like salsa dancing, I will do that all night long. But you know I can’t hang like I used to hang. Plus you know I tried to fit into that too for a while and it’s hollow. U know what I’m saying…But here I like to be with people and you’re having a good time and you get the same buzz, but you’re not coming down afterwards…u know… But you know spending time with my family…I’ve been reading a lot, like you know romantic realism books…go figure…like to learn…good conversation man, music, chill, yea u know I don’t mind silence. Because with everything it’s always so loud, we’re always travelling…music, people and talking so. I’ve learned to be okay just being by myself…it’s downtime I enjoy…and whatever
Farida Dancer: What do you do to stay away from negative emotion…because you know as Cancer’s we can be very emotional…?
Tanya Beardsley: I’m very internal. But I have to remind myself um again also that I always say that the “doubt kills” man. Our mind is a powerful machine. The more that we leak poisonous gas into it to feed that machine we create; every individual creates their own reality. We all live within our own reality. But most of that is all turmoil and negativity that we create for ourselves. That’s why we seek perfection in all that we do but that’s why there’s worry all the time. There’s worry of people being better than you…u know. There are people that wanna hate you just because they’re jealous. Jealousy sucks man…because it works in the exact opposite way that we want it to. And I keep coming back to this….honesty….if you’re honest with yourself…and try to be honest with other people and not try to put up that front man…then I think that a lot of negative vibrations get away from you…can’t fight that honesty man. But u know it can be hard to be honest, because people judge. People judge people every single day. It doesn’t matter what position you’re in. You can have a guy roll into this room right now in a wheelchair and people will look at him and feel bad for him…u know…it’s like projection. U know…its like how do you know he doesn’t have a happy life even if he’s in a wheelchair. A lot of life is avoiding other people’s projections. We all have a blank screen. When he comes into the room people project what they want to on that. That’s why I say “it’s my screen”…don’t project your negativity on it.
Farida Dancer: What’s your background?
Tanya Beardsley: Italian/English (England). The Beardsley name is big in England. Actually a famous painter carries the last name Beardsley and we’re not related. I checked.
Farida Dancer: What’s your astrological sign and your birth month and day?
Tanya Beardsley: Cancer, July 4th
Farida Dancer: Do you have a religious belief?
Tanya Beardsley: No I’m not religious but I am spiritual.
Farida Dancer: So you believe that there is a God.
Tanya Beardsley: Yes.
Reply with your comments of what other questions you think would allow us to get to know this amazing person a little better?
I got one: Are there any dancers that she looks up to? Who in the Zumba industry does she look up to the most and why? She identifies her interest in learning. Is there any thing in particular she really wants to learn more about? What do you eat to maintain your sexy and fit 6 pack abs?
P.S. I love you Tanya and you’re beautiful and you have a beautiful soul too. I hope that with this interview the world can see that too and understand why you are truly an amazing person. I wish for you and your family to be healthy and safe and for all your dreams in life to come true. If anyone deserves it …it’s you. BFF Farida Dancer from Canada;)